Lifestyle|| Single in a city he calls home…

Yep, that’s me. As of the beginning of August I’ve been single. One early afternoon we were making brunch, settling in for a day snuggled up on the sofa finishing Luke Cage. Late afternoon, we were both in tears at the prospect of a life without each other. And all in a city I moved to, over five years ago, to be with him.

I won’t go into it but we had obviously had our ups and downs over the 6 years. We just weren’t meant to be. We wanted different things. It hadn’t been right for a long time! It’s something I came to realise very quickly is definitely for the best. But it was still a shock. A complete change to life.

The city in question is obviously London. A city, which I didn’t think until recently, is actually home too. Well ‘home from home’.

Being suddenly single is a bludy daunting thing. No matter how long it’s been. I couldn’t say if it hurts more to have it sprung on you, as heart break is individual and very much situation dependent. What I’ve felt might be completely different. It all depends on how you get yourself through it.

Day trip to Paris

With all of my family back in the Midlands it’s been especially hard. But it’s made me realise how truly incredibly amazing my friends, my family away from home, really are. Like seriously. Everyone has been so supportive, whether meeting for dinner and keeping me busy, offering to help me move or giving me somewhere to stay and escape reality for a night or two (or in one case almost two weeks). But that’s just the start…

They’ve given me a whole new appreciation for the city. And my life here. Over the past month, I’ve had plans at least 5 out of 7 days each week. Trust me, keeping busy has been key in moving forward. Planning brunches, girls night’s, dinners, sleepovers, drinks, coffee and exploring has made me really think about again about what London really has to offer. Everything. If you want to be busy, trust me, you’ll find a way here. And that’s what I love about it. Along with the people you need on the way.

And so, whilst inside my heart I’d love to have my family close. I decided I’m staying here (at least for the near future), grabbing life by the horns, taking control and putting me first. I’m going to do everything I’ve wanted to do. London, I’m here for you.

Chloe xx

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18 Comments

  1. September 6, 2018 / 7:46 pm

    I think you are handling this like a boss, who knows what the future will bring? xo

    • lashesoflifestyle
      September 7, 2018 / 9:39 am

      Awww thanks babe!! Having such amazing girls in my life, and the people I’ve met/speak to in the blogging community (like you) definitely helped! I’m really looking forward to seeing what the future brings 🙂 Can’t wait for a catch-up soon! xx

  2. Jase
    September 6, 2018 / 8:27 pm

    Proud of you Chloe… Xxx

    • lashesoflifestyle
      September 7, 2018 / 9:40 am

      Thanks Dad <3 Staying positive. I'm lucky to have been brought up to never give up 😛 xx

  3. September 6, 2018 / 11:44 pm

    Sorry to hear you’ve had a hard time. You sound like you’re doing a great job of coping. Sending lots of positive vibes and happy times your way. Meg xx

    • lashesoflifestyle
      September 7, 2018 / 9:41 am

      I’m getting there now. Just a week until I can move out and I can’t wait!! Will make all the difference. I’m lucky to have all the girls around me! My friends have been amazing. Thanks Meg 🙂 Who knows what the future will hold?! xx

  4. September 7, 2018 / 9:39 am

    GIRl.
    I cannot imagine handling this situation with the amount of bloody class you have. You are thriving and flourishing and all the other -ings that are associated with making a change for the good.
    I know it’s been hard, but you seem so much happier than you have been in a long time, already – imagine how much happier you’ll be with a little time.
    xx

    • lashesoflifestyle
      September 7, 2018 / 10:52 am

      You almost made me cry! I couldn’t have done it without you all. I think I’ve surprised myself with how strong I really am, and how busy I can be haha. I have so many amazing friends I think I didn’t even realise were that close. Honestly it’s been eye-opening, and I think that’s what has made me so happy. I’m so excited to see the person I become and what the future holds…hopefully lots of adventures!! LOVE YOU xxx

  5. September 7, 2018 / 10:12 am

    Hi Chloe, sorry to hear about your news. I really hope things settle for you. Sounds like you’ve got some great friends and family willing you on. And I agree, London has so much to offer! All the best with it all, x

    • lashesoflifestyle
      September 7, 2018 / 10:58 am

      Hi Aaron, awww thank you! I’m moving next week into a new houseshare with two lovely girls, so hopefully, it’ll allow me to move onwards and upwards 🙂 I’m actually a lot stronger than I ever thought, so it’s really surprised me! My friends have been amazing, and my family of course, but that goes without saying really haha. London is fab. I can’t imagine moving away now (especially at the moment), it’s just the best for keeping busy and meeting new people. I’m definitely sticking around for the near future. Hope all is well with you too! x

      • September 9, 2018 / 8:00 am

        Glad to hear Chloe! Yes, all fine HERE! Our NHS team very busy of course, but still love writing to keep me balanced!

        • lashesoflifestyle
          September 12, 2018 / 5:49 pm

          Glad all is good with you. Busy is good too right? 🙂 Better than being bored. And that’s so good you’re still loving the writing on the side to have the best of both worlds!

  6. September 7, 2018 / 12:06 pm

    you = strong, bad ass giggle pot, and i couldn’t be prouder for how well you are taking on this new challenge.

    • lashesoflifestyle
      September 7, 2018 / 12:46 pm

      HAHA A gigglepot? LOVE IT. Awww thanks babe <3 I'm so grateful to everyone who's helped, supported and just been there for me to moan about how unthoughtful guys are haha xxx

  7. September 7, 2018 / 7:19 pm

    Wow, you inspire me so much! So sorry to hear about the break up but you’re handling it so well. London and the family you have made there will take care of you 🙂 x

    • lashesoflifestyle
      September 12, 2018 / 5:45 pm

      Awww thanks Jennie! I’ve really surprised myself. I think we’re all stronger than we really think. It’s always hard to go through a breakup, but having people around you really helps. x

  8. Laura
    September 7, 2018 / 7:54 pm

    Lovely to hear this Chloe! Similar thing happened to me a few years ago now and I think I did the opposite to you and it has taken me ages to get over it and probably still suffering a bit for it now. You’ve inspired me to get out there and enjoy life filling up every day with something fun filled and exciting 🙂 everything happens for a reason…so I’m told! Hope you’re well xx

    • lashesoflifestyle
      September 12, 2018 / 5:47 pm

      So nice to hear from you Laura! Oh no. I’m so pleased my post has inspired you in some way too. Having fun, focusing on yourself and spending time with friends makes so much difference! Yes, that’s true! Hope you’re well too. I’m always up for a coffee or something to catch-up if you fancy it? xxx

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